Dating guru…

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A friend of mine told me last week that she’d been watching daytime TV and there was a guy who is a “dating guru” giving advice out to women. So I thought I’d look him up. Matthew Hussey is his name. He’s British, he’s written a book called “Get the Guy”, he has a blog, and he has a monthly column in Cosmopolitan Magazine. He also holds live events where he gives out relationship advice- 50,000 women have attended them and he even holds 5 day “retreats” that cost £3000 to attend! If you want to have a private session with him… it’ll cost you £8000 and hour!! And people pay it. He MUST know what he’s talking about!

He’s apparently “the world’s leading dating expert for women”

How do I not know about him until now?! He’s a real life Will Smith from ‘Hitch’!!

Years ago, I caught a friend of mine reading a book on the sly at work under her desk… it intrigued me. She was reading The Complete Book of Rules: Time-tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr Right by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. She bought me a copy and we both lived our lives by “The Rules” for a long time. So much so that the heart she was trying to capture… she succeeded and they’ve now been married for almost 5 years and they have a beautiful new baby together. So if she managed to lock down Mr Right… why haven’t I? Ok.. I wasn’t THAT strict with the rules. And actually most of the time I forgot what they were and made up my own rules… I do struggle with things like this because they feel a little “game playing” which I’m not into at all. If I want to send a text, I send a text, I want to see them, I ask to see them. I can’t change who I am or how I act and I would never want to- I am who I am… but maybe I need to revisit them?! Or maybe I need to buy this guy’s book!

I found an article online with his ten top tips:

  1. Take control, don’t be afraid to make the first move. It is NOT desperate.
  2. Don’t give him what he wants, make him wait.
  3. Don’t get stuck in a text marathon – call him.
  4. Don’t assume a guy who likes you will talk to you.
  5. Always offer to pay the bill, even if you have no intention of doing so.
  6. Don’t use uncertain language. Swap “I kind of like the movie La La Land” for “I love the movie La La Land”.
  7. Say yes. If he says: “That popcorn smells great”, don’t say, “Yeah” then go into the movie. Say: “Let’s get some.”
  8. Compliment a guy on his style. It’s more meaningful than commenting on looks.
  9. Make him feel like Superman. Say: “I feel so safe whenever I’m around you.” If a guy feels like a guy around you, he’ll want to be around you more.
  10. Create sexual tension. Never stop flirting even if you are nervous


The only one of the above that I’m 100% good at and always do is number five. So from today, I’m going to follow these top ten tips and see what happens!

Here’s today’s “mental message”:

S*****: OMG! You is bang tidy! I’d travel all the way to Manchester just to give you a mars bar.

I don’t mention on my profile that I like Mars Bars but I do! I really do! I’m not sure where he was planning on travelling from though….

And also this message from someone else:

K***: Hope you’re enjoying the Manchester weather, have you ever drank a pint of Guinness?

Random. Very random.



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