Oh Crumbs!

Now then, in this crazy world of online dating there are many terms and phrases that have been developed like “catfishing”. However this weekend, I have fallen victim to “breadcrumbing”.

It’s got nothing to do with actual bread. Which is a shame because I bloody love bread!

The Urban Dictionary definition is this:

“The act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages (ie “breadcrumbs”) to members of the opposite sex in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort.”

 I’m pretty sure that girls “breadcrumb” as much as guys but it doesn’t make it ok. Thankfully, I can now spot it a mile off…

So I’ve been chatting to a guy for a while. The usual pattern forms- swapping of phone numbers, stalking each other on all types of social media, etc etc. Then there’s talk of… A DATE! Exciting, hey?! No. Not if they are going to breadcrumb you. No actual plans for the date were arranged, we discuss potential for a weekday or next weekend.

Since then he has slowly started to disappear. He’s given me the odd “like” on Instagram- reminding me he exists… then I get a “hey, nice weekend?” Whatsapp message, giving me false hope that maybe he’s just had a bad week and is back in touch to make date plans. So I reply telling him I’ve had a lovely weekend and ask if he has had a good one too. He read it but no reply. Zero. And I doubt he will for a few days, even a few weeks, possibly even months.

These breadcrumbers basically want to keep you hanging, keep a little bit of interest and chat going with you- checking every now and again that you’ll respond, whilst they have a look around- window shop if you will, and see if they can find anything better. If not, they’ll come back, giving you false hope. They just want reassurance that they’ve pretty much still got you “in the bag” should they wish, they’ll dangle that carrot (not a euphemism) and then give it to someone else (again no euphemism intended).

Well. BEWARE BREADCRUMBERS… I’M COMING AFTER YOU! (I’m totally not, I don’t think I’d be good at breadcrumbing. It’s a messy game and I aint no game player.)

Although if I’m honest… maybe I’m an unintentional breadcrumber if I REALLY think about it…

Maybe we are all unintentional breadcrumbers?? Do we breadcrumb our friends?? hmmmmmmmm…. Oh dear…

 

I’ve decided that the “best message of the weekend award” goes to this guy for all his efforts…

F***************** Hi, I really love your beautiful smile.x

I didn’t respond. Then 5 hours later…

F***************** Fancy coffee?

3 days later…

F***************** Any chance?

 God loves a trier but not a creepy stalker-y trier.

 

Thank you all for reading my nonsense so far! It’s been over a week and I hope it’s kept you entertained.xx